The love of my life?

I have seen people proclaim alot of things in a relationship and sweet and romantic things which is really inspired by the media and romantic movies. In my mind, does people know what they mean when they proclaims some things like "you are the love of my life".... or they are just really little sweet "nothings".

Many teenage couples in college or even there are boys and girls, goes up to their partners and say "you are the love of my life" or "I love you and you are my one and only" and then break up the next moment, and in the following moment gets together with another person and proclaim the same thing. Funny isn't it?

This even happens in young adults at this age where love is about being physically close and all about emotions. Once the emotion dies, so does the relationship. Its so disheartening that many people do not understand what love is anymore. It takes more to love a person than just mere emotions or proclaimations. It takes sacrifice, understanding, support, compromise, a whole lot of determination, and all these are just the tip of the iceberg.

"I love you because my heart says so" is really romatic in the ears, but really means nothing to the heart. You have to be willing to contribute to the other person's life. Really, 2 become 1, and dont get me wrong here, we are not talking about sexual relationship here. The goals and aspiration of 2 people have to grow to the same directions, so that you can support each other along the way.

I see in many relationships, they are nothing more than, movie and dinner mates, really, think about it.. You go out every weekend, dinner have dinner, go watch movie, or hit the clubs and hang out with friends. How many out there really understand their partners? What is in their minds, what is their heart's deepest ends? Do you know how to shine a light on their deepest darkest personal well and help them out of it? Or are you just waiting for their attention to make you feel significant?

If you are to proclaim that someone means something to you, MEAN it. For life means TILL YOU DIE. I challenge you to think, have said that to an ex-lover before? Other wise, just say "You are my love until my heart says i am in love with someone else" its not that romantic now, is it? but that is the REAL truth, isn't it? For life means, the covenent you made before her family, your family, and most importantly before God himself. "For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in health and in sickness, till DEATH do you part" See the significance?

Better or worse- Yes, no one is perfect, you made a commitment to love someone, you need to accept their flaws as well, and support them along their way to be a better person. In some families, it takes up to 30 years..

Richer or poorer- Relationship for money? If someone really be with someone just because he/she has the money to give you whatever you want, aren't you really making yourself a long term prostitute or gigolo? This is harsh, but think about the truth behind it.

In health and In Sickness- If there is birth, then there will be aging and there will be sickness. Do you want to be left behind in your misery when you are sick? Then why would you leave someone you proclaim your "love of your life" when they are sick?

Till Death do you part- This is what for LIFE means.

And all that promise is made infront of God. There is really more to love than what the media shows. Think about it. For married couples who are considering divorce, is it really your way out? Is the civil court strong enough to undo a promise you made infront of God? For all couples other out there. Are you really able to proclaim someone is the love of your life? Is this the person you see yourself marrying? You willing to take up such commitment.

It takes time and effort and guidance to really build a long lasting relationship. Emotions or Looks may initiate the attraction, but it takes more than that to keep it going. I hope this brings a thought to couples and take a real good look at their relationships.

God Bless.